Monday, April 6, 2009
Potty training and jellybeans
We have been working on potty training for a couple of months. We had one moment of success on our first morning, and then weeks of refusal to even sit on the potty chair. I'm in no hurry (she just turned two in January) but I still asked around for ideas on getting Abigail to agree to sit on the potty.
I heard several ideas, like giving stickers for sitting and for success (but we play with stickers just for fun, so I don't think that would work). One friend mentioned to me that her boys got jellybeans for sitting on the potty, and more jellybeans for having success. I really didn't think this was an option for me, but then I bought a huge container of Jelly Bellies at Costco. I bought them for me, but Abigail quickly learned that jellybeans were yummy.
When she started asking for jellybeans several times a day, I decided it was time to use them as a treat for potty time. So for the past few weeks, each time Abigail has asked for jellybeans, I ask her what we do to get jellybeans. She makes a beeline for the potty. She gets one for sitting down, and then one every few minutes after that until she's "done." When we're done, she gets three as a treat. When she has success, she gets a few more.
I know there are theories about rewards and intrinsic value and kids doing things because they're supposed to (or want to) rather than because we give them treats. However, I can tell that she's excited call Daddy to give him her news, and she was excited for herself when she has success. The jellybeans are a "booty in the chair" enticement, and I don't believe that's such a bad thing.
What have you used to help with potty training?