Wednesday, November 4, 2009

Public Or Private?

I mentioned in my post yesterday that I'm considering starting a private blog to write in more detail about my family. I still haven't made that decision, but oddly, the second prompt in Blogging for Scrapbookers is all about public vs. private information and how much we choose to share online.

I try to be careful on this blog about what information I share.  I don't discuss where we live, other than it being rural and near Louisville. I don't show photos of children's faces (which can be difficult at times - two years old is not exactly a cooperative age). I try not to talk about days when we struggle or when I'm frustrated with parenting - I don't think it's fair to put that kind of thing out there for my daughter to discover when she's older (although I don't mind scrapbooking it, but that's private). I don't mention when I'll be out of town, and I try to make sure I have posts lined up for when I'm gone. I do use our first names, and the names of some of my friends. I don't think this is a security issue, but I know some people prefer to use nicknames. To each her own definition of security, I suppose.

I would like to use blogging to capture little moments in time, though, both for my scrapbooking and for my memory. Perhaps I will decide not to scrapbook every single moment that I capture, but I'd like to remember it. I know I could use a traditional journal/diary, and I did for years, but at this time blogging is more immediate for me. I didn't even consider, until Shimelle mentioned it, that I can always write those things in draft and then decide not to publish. It's funny that I didn't think of it, considering how many blogging ideas I have in draft at the moment (it's not pretty).

This isn't much different than scrapbooking, actually. Of course, I choose who may view my scrapbooks far more selectively than I choose who views my blog, but there are still times that I don't want to share everything on a page. Perhaps I don't want to hurt someone who may end up seeing the page at some point. Perhaps it's still too personal to reveal. The options are not recording it at all, using hidden journaling or choosing to journal that aspect in a traditional journal rather than a scrapbook. Or sometimes my solution is to have a private scrapbook outside of my Library of Memories where I record more personal stories with revealing journaling.

What's your solution for personal journaling in your scrapbook or with your blog?

9 comments:

Tracy said...

I am so enjoying this Shimelle class! I dont worry too much about privacy, but just make sure I dont mention place names, addresses, surnames etc. I agree though, about the draft thing, there is lots of stuff I would like to write about, but feel is too personal to actually publish!

April P. said...

My solution is to use hidden journaling . . . no one ever knows it's there or want to deal with taking out a page to open up a folder or envelope where I've hidden the journaling. I use just a random photo . . . There are some things, in my mind, that I've not written down anywhere at this point. I don't know if I'll ever put those in a layout - but I do have journals for that . . . things that years later, after I'm dead and gone, my kids will have of me and finally know the whole story . . . things that I've done, maybe that I am too embarrassed or ashamed of doing, that I want them to think better of me right now - maybe when they're adults and I don't have to be dead and gone . . . anything, but to me, layouts are for lessons learned, celebrations of the past and present, and while I can handle scrapbooking challenging times, I am certainly not sure what some things in my past have taught me yet . . . and so they don't serve a purpose to be shared in my albums. Does that make any sense?

Nellie Mae said...

I love having my blog as it helps me to keep a record of events in my life...Sometimes when I am working on a scrapbook layout I will browse over blog posts from that week or month to help me put together a page with more information....sometimes I will use the journaling directly from the blog post. I don't include very much information about my immediate family either.

Fun Mama - Deanna said...

April, that absolutely makes sense. I actually have a separate album that I'm making for each of my children (just one now) that will have the lessons learned, and other things that I may not want them to know until they are adults. Things that I wish I'd known about my grandparents, who didn't get to see me as an adult.

RachelB said...

I love your comment about being a fun Mama, that is how I want my little one to see me too. I also include hidden journaling on Layouts, people don't even know it's there - unless you mention it of course!

humel said...

I try to be pretty careful about specifics, but this prompt did make me think about the possibility of either keeping some posts in draft, or maybe even having a separate, private blog for any posts that I don't really want 'out there' for anyone to see!

Thanks for dropping by my blog, I look forward to seeing yours progress through this class :-)

Karen said...

I love the phrase 'Fun Mama' and try to be one for my daughter. It is so important to give your kids good memories to take with them through life. Love your blog BTW.

Claireliz said...

I try & keep just crafty stuff on my blog, but sometimes life spills over. The stuff I really don't share I write in a journal.
Thanks for stopping by my blog. Hope you are enjoying class.

Carrie said...

Great take on the prompt! I try to be careful but don't want to let too much fear control what I have to say either. Like everything else, try to find a balance!